This is somehow a very personal post that I feel ashamed to be posting. I’m going to write it, post it, and never doubt it.
Guru Candice speaking…
For more than a third-quarter of my life I was a pessimistic human being : I was always thinking everything will turn out badly, and that I didn’t deserve to be happy.
Somehow, along the way, I changed. I became more and more optimist, now I am trying to always see the glass half-full.
I’ve been working on being more positive, therefore less negative.
When you’re negative, you attract negative people and negative events. So why will it not work for positivity ? If I think more positively, positive events will happen in my life.
One of my first steps have been to stop (for the most part) complaining. I am not saying I don’t complain anymore, this is not true because well … complaining sometimes can be relieving, but I don’t do it as much as I did before.
If my train gets delayed, I won’t tweet about it. I’ll turn my energy into finding something good to do while waiting : start a new book; take time to write in my notebook some reviews for The Beautiful Stillness or even go for a walk.
It considerably changed my moods, I will not have this anger inside me still burning. I killed it before it had the chance to grow.
I don’t talk about the “hate” I feel for books, films, or even people on the internet. It’s much more interesting to listen to people talking about things they love instead of things they despise, don’t you think ? I always feel in awe when someone I know talk to me about some exciting project, and when someone start whining about something trivial for an hour … well… it doesn’t have the same effect at all. It’s ok to don’t like things, we can’t love everything, but it’s negative to only talk about things you don’t like.
I want more people sharing about things they love, things that make them happy. It inspires me and make me feel happy!
If you are having a hard time, I am going to give you a little trick that works perfectly for me : make a list of things that make you happy or things you are grateful for, and when you’re sad, read the list, do one of the things. It will make you feel better, I promise.
Well, that’s it for today. Now I’m going to hide in a corner and watch you respond to this…